Mango's yu dan reflection

Ok.. the yu dan's show enlightens me. I dunno if now I change my mind to go the xmas gathering can or not. But at least I ask. This episode is about 君子 and 小人。I can't say I'm a jun zi cos I am stubborn in some areas and have own principles to adhere to. The show teaches me not to be narrow-minded. Actually I already tried to think in the shoes of others, tried to tolerate. But this time I'm too rush to make the decision.

To be a gentleman, you need to think of others. 以大局为重 and be far-sighted. Actually to be frank, I hate ppl who only think of themselves. Sometimes I'm too subjective. Yes maybe that friend has reasons for not coming to the gathering. But in my heart, there's a devil. Come on.. it's a group outing. Why the outing u wan no matter how far ppl will accommodate but when it comes to places u dun wanna go, u won't go. And it's not once.. it's skip all the outings. And some only need the bus fare like IKEA. Maybe really is disinterested ba. But ya.. I'm disappointed and another voices tell me this friend why so self-centred. Makes me so sad. And it's definitely not easy to plan outings. When there are times when 1 or 2 can't make it. Not easy to make it that all can come.

And I hope u all understand the hassle I went through this 3 years trying to plan. I let u plan u will also say it's difficult. Every outing as a dedicated member of zhui xing, I hope everyone will make their best effort to come. Tell u all smth, becos of zhui xing outings, smtimes I had to sacrifice my sat for dates which are quite rare le. I'm not trying to claim merit or say how noble I am. But
I dunno lah.. that's how I view this club. It's really impt to me.

Ok.. so I'm frustrated when "she" juz walked off without looking back. I think it's quite rude. I'm sorry if I'm too direct but that what I felt. And it's my fault if I criticise.. but I really dunno that those "jokes" or light-hearted words were taken in so seriously. If u all want, I can be serious like a block of wood. Then it won't be me le loh. Cos there's no laughter. I'm not saying you muz be the centre of amusement. But everyone also say each other..like Jupiter always bring TIME out and we also joked abt that. I dunno also.. I may be a fake person next time loh. If that's most appropriate.

Yu dan says 小人 always look upon himself and care very much about the acquisition of material goods. I do spend but not at the expense of friendship. Definitely not. If u acquire so much of pretty stuff, but you actually lose spending time with your friend, I think it's quite pathetic.

Plus if you really not happy with your friend, you should carry out effective communication with her. Instead of telling another friend 1st. Imagine how the friend will feel. Especially if she's already unhappy.

Actually sat's incident was quite small. It can dun happen one. But since it's blown up.. I guess we all need some time to 4get. Not easy 4 two stubborn Leos I guess.

The friend shld listen. Open the heart and listen.

I agree all have different tolerance limit. I'm unsure if I reached mine yet. Sometimes I feel so unappreciated. Insignificant. I dunno whether meeting has become tiring or wat. I hope not.. maybe I shouldn't expect all to be as enthu as I.

If nothing crops up, I'll attend the gathering..

I pray that everything will be resolved naturally.

All the best,

Mango~